Relationships

[bldavis]

You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and 4) an introvert

not sure if any apply to Sabin, but they work for me

[Sabindeus]

You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and 4) an introvert

not sure if any apply to Sabin, but they work for me

nailed at least 2 out of 4 bro. Not sure about the "introvert" thing but it's probably true.

[bldavis]

im not a full introvert, but enough of one that i can be really shy at times if i dont already know at least 1 or 2... preferably more though...people there

it takes me being around friends i have known for a while for me to be really outgoing

[Sabindeus]

im not a full introvert, but enough of one that i can be really shy at times if i dont already know at least 1 or 2... preferably more though...people there

it takes me being around friends i have known for a while for me to be really outgoing

yeah that describes me pretty well

[lythac]

You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

Or bar/coffeehouse/venue where an event is going on - poetry, comedy, musicians etc. Open mic might be a good thing or may be terrible. Gives you something to focus on and not feel self-conscious as well as providing something to talk about.

[Amirya]

You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and
4) an introvert

not sure if any apply to Sabin, but they work for me

1) Excuse, just because you're fat doesn't mean anything. Unless you're 800 lbs and your legs literally cannot support you. Then you have more important issues than a bed buddy.
2) Excuse. Have you seen the shit they call dancing these days? Getting mostly naked and shaking chest/hips around. Doesn't require a whole lotta skill.
3) I'll grant that one if you're in the between-bracket.
4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.

[Snake-Aes]

Next thing I know you'll be dissin' Mage...

Awakening's rad, ascension was just a fad.

Here's a question that I may have asked before: Where do you go to meet (single) people if you don't drink?

Mostly I don't find people like that. They run by me or a friend shows me them and so on. I met my girlfriend when another friend of mine that studies with me asked my help to make her a song.

4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.

Most of them did start once I followed this advice as well. I'm still shy as fuck but if I'm interested I'll reach out of my comfort zone. The current one started when I looked at her the second time we ever met and said "Let's go somewhere else? This music is horrible."

And to add another shiny layer of facts no one believes me when I tell them: She called and told me she basically spent the day in RJ with Bon Jovi (she's a fan for like 30 years now).

[bldavis]

most women, at least around here, wont give you a second look unless you are a beanpole..stop laughing i am serious
either they are young idiots, or old and shudder worthy...im not that desperate for a bed buddy as ami put it

dancing...unless it is /dance i cant to it at all...well at least to what they play in most clubs. if i could find a club that played big band swing music, i would be scrawny as fuck due to LOVING to swing dance...i can also waltz (just way out of practice)

as for being out going...it is painful at times for me to try to open up to someone like that
i can...but its rare and takes me a while to get there

[Aubade]

4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.

This might be counter-productive to your point. But most of my friends are extroverts who love being loud/Talking to people. Whenever they drag me along to bars/clubs/house parties, (Which is extremely rare, even more so now that I'm in a serious relationship) I normally sit in the corner, or focus on my own thing. Suprisingly I got more women interested in me than all my friends. And I'd get a lot of shit for "Stealing their romantic Interest" By doing nothing..... O.o

Tl;DR: Being an Introvert can work

[Sabindeus]

4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.

:D

This might be counter-productive to your point. But most of my friends are extroverts who love being loud/Talking to people. Whenever they drag me along to bars/clubs/house parties, (Which is extremely rare, even more so now that I'm in a serious relationship) I normally sit in the corner, or focus on my own thing. Suprisingly I got more women interested in me than all my friends. And I'd get a lot of shit for "Stealing their romantic Interest" By doing nothing..... O.o

Tl;DR: Being an Introvert can work

Sadly while I have friends like that, they're all a) not around me anymore due to geographic diffusion, b) in relationships anyway so less likely for anything like that to happen even if they were around

[Sagara]

Next thing I know you'll be dissin' Mage...

Awakening's rad, ascension was just a fad.

I could kiss you!

[Snake-Aes]

Next thing I know you'll be dissin' Mage...

Awakening's rad, ascension was just a fad.

I could kiss you!

I know >:)

[Amirya]

This might be counter-productive to your point. But most of my friends are extroverts who love being loud/Talking to people. Whenever they drag me along to bars/clubs/house parties, (Which is extremely rare, even more so now that I'm in a serious relationship) I normally sit in the corner, or focus on my own thing. Suprisingly I got more women interested in me than all my friends. And I'd get a lot of shit for "Stealing their romantic Interest" By doing nothing..... O.o

Tl;DR: Being an Introvert can work

Pfft, it has nothing to do with being an introvert (I'm quite the introvert offline, and I apparently give off "hostile keep the fuck away from me" vibes when I stare off into space). It's just that you're so cute and adorable.

[Snake-Aes]

Pfft, it has nothing to do with being an introvert (I'm quite the introvert offline, and I apparently give off "hostile keep the fuck away from me" vibes when I stare off into space). It's just that you're so cute and adorable.

Welcome to the team.
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[Fivelives]

You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and
4) an introvert

All but (3) can be counteracted by a healthy dose of confidence. Even hick towns have dance clubs though - but instead of playing bump & grind music, they'll play two-step or line dances. Learn a simple line dance and get out there for a round or two.

If you can swing dance, you can swing dance to anything with the proper rhythm. Much like the waltz just requires something in 3/3 time. And I'd wager dollars to donuts that if you can swing dance, you can pick up just about anyone who's out dancing.