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Re: Relationships

Postby Shoju » Wed Nov 28, 2012 9:36 am

firstamendme wrote:The flowers and soup went over well.

Yay!

My wondering about if it was stalkerish stems from having just got out of a marriage, so I was used to being with a person every day. I didn't want to move too fast and do something too quickly. Additionally, due to why the marriage ended, there is always that little voice in my head that says if I'm not hearing from her it's because she's with another guy. Stupid, I know, and I can logically refute the 'little voice,' but it means that impartial anonymous opinions help me separate what I think might be crazy from what is actually normal behavior.


This is completely understandable. I have gone down that path before. It was awful. It was terrible. The broken trust bleeds into parts of your life that you never thought would be effected. Being able to logically refute the 'little voice' is a good step in the process of moving beyond what has happened.

I think you are right, Shoju, and I've been trying to get her to find a new roommate, but as with many recipients of verbal/emotional abuse it's hard to break through the wall of 'It isn't that bad' that gets put up.

Thanks for the opinions! I went with soup, her favorite flavor tums, and her favorite flavor power aid. (and a flower, naturally).

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That is the hardest part. Especially when it is a "friend" and not "Family" that is being abusive. People don't seem to think of relationships with friends being able to exhibit that level of "behavior".

The other solution? Move her in with you :) (kidding, unless you are at "that" point, though it doesn't sound like it)
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Re: Relationships

Postby Nikachelle » Wed Nov 28, 2012 9:47 am

GAHHHHHHHHHHH! Awesome internal job posting that someone's just pointed out to me (it's right up my alley, hence them suggesting it to me). It's a step up in the corporation and a payraise... but we noticed the posting late so I've only got until this Friday to submit my full application. [panic mode activated]
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Re: Relationships

Postby Sagara » Wed Nov 28, 2012 10:22 am

Drop the gear table, Nika! CHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGE to your destiny!
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Re: Relationships

Postby firstamendme » Wed Nov 28, 2012 10:53 am

Shoju wrote:The other solution? Move her in with you :) (kidding, unless you are at "that" point, though it doesn't sound like it)


Well we have only been dating almost two months. Also, we both just renewed leases in October, so it would be tricky. Hopefully it will be an option next October. :D
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Re: Relationships

Postby Nikachelle » Wed Nov 28, 2012 11:42 am

firstamendme wrote:
Shoju wrote:The other solution? Move her in with you :) (kidding, unless you are at "that" point, though it doesn't sound like it)


Well we have only been dating almost two months. Also, we both just renewed leases in October, so it would be tricky. Hopefully it will be an option next October. :D

Oh puhhhhleeeeeeze! Invis and I moved in within two months of meeting IRL and then got married two months later.

(I say this teasingly as I know you've just gotten divorced, so don't take me too seriously! ;))

Anyway, good job on the soup deal. Kindness is always appreciated - glad she liked it. :)
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Re: Relationships

Postby Skye1013 » Wed Nov 28, 2012 5:35 pm

Sagara wrote:Drop the gear table, Nika! CHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGE to your destiny!

Silly Sagara... everyone knows Paladin can't charge...
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Re: Relationships

Postby Sagara » Wed Nov 28, 2012 11:52 pm

Skye1013 wrote:
Sagara wrote:Drop the gear table, Nika! Speed of light! to your destiny!

Silly Sagara... everyone knows Paladin can't charge...


There, happy? :lol:
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Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:17 am

dammit you beat me to it!
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Re: Relationships

Postby Levantine » Mon Dec 03, 2012 7:54 am

Well that's interesting. Somewhere in the last two months I've lost the ability to talk to guys. Like not even joking any ability to flirt I may have had seems to have died and been replaced with a soul crushing level of shy.
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Re: Relationships

Postby Nikachelle » Mon Dec 03, 2012 8:07 am

Levantine wrote:Well that's interesting. Somewhere in the last two months I've lost the ability to talk to guys. Like not even joking any ability to flirt I may have had seems to have died and been replaced with a soul crushing level of shy.

Fuck off - You're not shy!
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Re: Relationships

Postby Levantine » Mon Dec 03, 2012 8:28 am

I know, it was news to me too!

I think it's just rust. It has been a long time since I've had to consciously flirt. Obviously doesn't help that the last haircut I had was absolutely atrocious and I had to suffer with it for an extended period due to the stupid bitch clipping my hair WAY too close to my double crown. It's like a month and a half of bad hair days.
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Re: Relationships

Postby Nikachelle » Mon Dec 03, 2012 8:34 am

I actually had to look up what a double crown was.
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Re: Relationships

Postby Skye1013 » Mon Dec 03, 2012 5:30 pm

Well that killed about 15 minutes. I now know what a double crown is and vaguely how to determine hair texture, density, porosity, elasticity and wave pattern.
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Re: Relationships

Postby Arnock » Tue Dec 04, 2012 8:07 pm

Wait, so lev's a jockey and he only one two of the three races??
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Re: Relationships

Postby Levantine » Tue Dec 04, 2012 8:56 pm

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