Relationships

[Brekkie]

I just wasn't feeling it. He got reaaaaaal clingy despite knowing that I can't do clingy. The more someone tries to get clingy with me the more I push them away. Also the sex was horrible.

I don't know exactly when/how it happened, but somewhere in the last two weeks he completely soured the idea of being in a relationship with him and I was all like, not going to waste either of our time. I think he did understand that I wasn't what he was looking for and he wasn't what I was looking for.

I'm starting to realise that what I want out of a relationship is a mate (who I sleep with). I fucking hate lovey dovey romanticism. I just can't do it and it's not what I'm looking for. Like, if my best friend was a dude or I was into girls, I would have wifed that shit already.

TLDR dun like clingy

Serious Suggestion: Stop sleeping with them so quickly after first meeting them.

Not saying that to be judgemental, god knows I have no room to talk, but I honestly think it might help.

[Levantine]

Serious Suggestion: Stop sleeping with them so quickly after first meeting them.

Not saying that to be judgemental, god knows I have no room to talk, but I honestly think it might help.

This one was a current friend, so it wasn't quite that situation. Generally I'd agree with you and if I'm settling into a relationship with someone new I generally don't for a couple of weeks at least historically. If it's just a fling then whatever because flings are basically short lived sex adventures anyway.

[Nikachelle]

Ehhhhh not sure I agree about the whole withholding sex until later thing. I don't think it's a magical key that will suddenly make a relationship last longer if you hold out longer.

[Barathorn]

Ehhhhh not sure I agree about the whole withholding sex until later thing. I don't think it's a magical key that will suddenly make a relationship last longer if you hold out longer.

Do like Axis of Awesome and ask yourself 'What would Jesus Do'?

[Sagara]

Ehhhhh not sure I agree about the whole withholding sex until later thing. I don't think it's a magical key that will suddenly make a relationship last longer if you hold out longer.

Do like Axis of Awesome and ask yourself 'What would Jesus Do'?

Depends on the edition.

And I feel Lev did the right choice, and shouldn't change much about her approach.

It's clear you're getting more at ease with yourself, if not with others. Relationships aren't a necessity for a fulfilling life, unless you want it to. Better to find one's own balance.

[Levantine]

Ehhhhh not sure I agree about the whole withholding sex until later thing. I don't think it's a magical key that will suddenly make a relationship last longer if you hold out longer.

Do like Axis of Awesome and ask yourself 'What would Jesus Do'?

Depends on the edition.

And I feel Lev did the right choice, and shouldn't change much about her approach.

It's clear you're getting more at ease with yourself, if not with others. Relationships aren't a necessity for a fulfilling life, unless you want it to. Better to find one's own balance.

And I feel Lev did the right choice, and shouldn't change much about her approach.

and shouldn't change much about her approach.

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Well I'll be.

[Nikachelle]

Been a while since someone's called you a chick on here!

[Levantine]

I know! Took me a second to realise what was weird about the post. I do appreciate the comments though. I realise I lack tact in this situation, but I still think what I did was for the best in the long run. Spesh when this guy seems to have had a thing for me for a while to have developed that level of emotional attachment so quickly.

[Nikachelle]

I think what struck me most about what you'd said was that you admitted that you acted like a douche. And I don't even know the guy you broke up with, obviously, but I felt bad for him because it's never nice to be treated poorly during a break up (which is how you made it sound).

Plus I *swear* I thought you said the sex was awesome before.

[Levantine]

First time it was. After that not so much. Don't know why honestly, but yeah. After the first time I was doing all the work and I was all like, well this is crappy.

I do owe him an apology for how things went down, and I know that, I just doubt that now is the appropriate time to do it.

[Nikachelle]

/shrug

Sometimes the spark just fizzles. At least it was good the first time - Better than "god why did I bother? This sex is so damn boring..." on your first go!

[Levantine]

Oh lord, been there done that. Ugh.

I put a self imposed ban on going clubbing without female supervision. Every time I've gone out with the guys I've slept with someone I really shouldn't have for one reason or another. Drunk Lev goes and does what he pleases just to annoy sober Lev.

[bldavis]

Drunk Lev goes and does what he pleases just to annoy sober Lev.

must...resist...urge...to...add...to....sig....

[Sagara]

/goes to seppukku.

For the records, it's my third time on this forum...

[Amirya]

*pats Sagara*