Relationships

Invisusira's playground

Moderators: Aergis, Invisusira

Re: Relationships

Postby Barathorn » Mon Jan 13, 2014 2:13 am

It's Goatee's or GTFO.

Wear your beard with pride.

Sorry Ami.
Sabindeus wrote:I feel like I should get a t-shirt made for me that says "Not Socially Awkward, Just Fat".

Brekkie wrote:The world will always need people to dig ditches.
User avatar
Barathorn
Moderator
 
Posts: 5254
Joined: Thu Jul 05, 2007 1:08 am
Location: Hitting Panda's over the head with a cricket bat shouting Get Orf My Lawn!

Re: Relationships

Postby Brekkie » Mon Jan 13, 2014 4:27 pm

Speaking of manly men being manly, I highly recommend the movie Lone Survivor.
Theckhd wrote:big numbers are the in-game way of expressing that Brekkie's penis is huge.
Brekkie
 
Posts: 918
Joined: Mon Aug 02, 2010 7:44 pm

Re: Relationships

Postby Arnock » Mon Jan 13, 2014 8:00 pm

Brekkie wrote:Speaking of manly men being manly, I highly recommend the movie Lone Survivor.



Seconded.

It's easily up there with Black Hawk down, maybe even Saving Private Ryan.


Excellent, realistic film with great acting and cinematography.
Image
Courage not of this earth in your eyes
Faith from far beyond lies deep inside
User avatar
Arnock
 
Posts: 2791
Joined: Tue Apr 08, 2008 6:36 pm
Location: Everywhere and nowhere

Re: Relationships

Postby Snake-Aes » Tue Jan 14, 2014 12:23 pm

Brekkie wrote:Speaking of manly men being manly, I highly recommend the movie Lone Survivor.
Psh. Kungfu Hustle.
Image
I am not allowed to seduce the abyssal's lunar mate.
User avatar
Snake-Aes
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 10125
Joined: Thu Nov 01, 2007 3:15 am
Location: Thorns

Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Tue Jan 14, 2014 5:32 pm

not sure if this should go here or frustrations..
my great aunt died this morning in her nursing home
i know my mom and uncle are going to salt lake for the funeral if they can
not sure if i want to go though

no idea what caused her death at this time (it was 10 am local time when she passed so literally a few hours ago)
Image

Brekkie:Tanks are like shitty DPS. And healers are like REALLY distracted DPS
Amirya:Why yes, your penis is longer than his because you hit 30k dps in the first 10 seconds. But guess what? That raid boss has a dick bigger than your ego.
Flex:I don't make mistakes. I execute carefully planned strategic group wipes.
Levie:(in /g) It's weird, I have a collar and I dont know where I got it from, Worgen are kinky!
Levie:Drunk Lev goes and does what he pleases just to annoy sober Lev.
Sagara:You see, you need to *spread* the bun before you insert the hot dog.
User avatar
bldavis
 
Posts: 6111
Joined: Mon Sep 07, 2009 12:04 pm
Location: Searching for myself. If i get back before I return, please have me stop and wait for myself.

Re: Relationships

Postby katraya » Mon Jan 20, 2014 7:05 am

For the first time in a while I have a day off and my husband has to work. I was looking forward to playing most of the day because I don't like to play while he's home.


My authenticator is nowhere to be found. I think our new cat hid it from me but it's not in any of her usual stash spots. I am not amused!
Image
User avatar
katraya
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 1823
Joined: Fri Sep 05, 2008 7:45 am

Re: Relationships

Postby Barathorn » Mon Jan 27, 2014 3:16 am

Its Mondinium.

I hate Mondays. I see my life becoming a sad parody of Grumpy Cats.
Sabindeus wrote:I feel like I should get a t-shirt made for me that says "Not Socially Awkward, Just Fat".

Brekkie wrote:The world will always need people to dig ditches.
User avatar
Barathorn
Moderator
 
Posts: 5254
Joined: Thu Jul 05, 2007 1:08 am
Location: Hitting Panda's over the head with a cricket bat shouting Get Orf My Lawn!

Re: Relationships

Postby katraya » Mon Jan 27, 2014 6:20 am

/hugs Bara, it will be ok. Friday will be here eventually. I'm actually excited because after this week a terrible coworker of mine will be gone for good. Freedom!!!
Image
User avatar
katraya
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 1823
Joined: Fri Sep 05, 2008 7:45 am

Re: Relationships

Postby Nikachelle » Mon Jan 27, 2014 8:01 am

katraya wrote:/hugs Bara, it will be ok. Friday will be here eventually. I'm actually excited because after this week a terrible coworker of mine will be gone for good. Freedom!!!

But I loved getting worked up over her on your behalf. What will we talk about now?!?!
User avatar
Nikachelle
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 8406
Joined: Mon Mar 23, 2009 10:39 am
Location: Toronto, Canada

Re: Relationships

Postby Passionario » Wed Jan 29, 2014 4:11 am

Nikachelle wrote:What will we talk about now?!?!

Lip balm. :P
If you are not the flame, you're the fuel.
User avatar
Passionario
 
Posts: 2272
Joined: Tue Jul 17, 2007 2:52 am

Re: Relationships

Postby katraya » Wed Jan 29, 2014 6:38 am

Passionario wrote:
Nikachelle wrote:What will we talk about now?!?!

Lip balm. :P


It's like you've been spying on our gchats!
Image
User avatar
katraya
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 1823
Joined: Fri Sep 05, 2008 7:45 am

Re: Relationships

Postby Nikachelle » Wed Jan 29, 2014 8:16 am

katraya wrote:
Passionario wrote:
Nikachelle wrote:What will we talk about now?!?!

Lip balm. :P


It's like you've been spying on our gchats!

Seriously.

I'm over the butter balm phase. Now I'm into butter gloss. :D

Image
User avatar
Nikachelle
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 8406
Joined: Mon Mar 23, 2009 10:39 am
Location: Toronto, Canada

Re: Relationships

Postby Fivelives » Wed Jan 29, 2014 4:32 pm

Bravo five one niner, bravo five one niner, this is whiskey tango foxtrot actual, come in, over.
Whiskey tango foxtrot actual, this is bravo five one niner, go ahead.
Bravo five one niner, abort thread, beauty products discussion incoming. I say again: abort thread, beauty products discussion incoming. Whiskey tango foxtrot actual, out.
- I'm not Jesus, but I can turn water into Kool-Aid.
- A Sergeant in motion outranks an officer who doesn't know what the hell is going on.
- A demolitions specialist at a flat run outranks everybody.
User avatar
Fivelives
 
Posts: 2801
Joined: Sat Feb 16, 2008 7:55 pm

Re: Relationships

Postby Skye1013 » Thu Jan 30, 2014 12:05 am

Ok... so... I'm having an issue... and want to get other people's (unbiased) thoughts on it... I'll do my best to keep emotion out of the explanation, but as I'm human, that might be impossible to prevent entirely.

I've been seeing a guy for about a month and a half, everything started out great, we hung out, watched movies, went out to eat, cuddled, played games, had sex, etc. Lately though, he doesn't seem to have time for me. I'll invite him out somewhere and usually I'm met with a "maybe" or if it's something after work "it depends on how tired I am." By the time it comes for us to potentially go out, he's usually got other plans (including the after work nights.)

I grew out my mustache for him because he wanted to see what it looked like in person (he said he liked it from some pics he'd seen.) The other night the following conversation took place (ignore the typo):
Image
I then apologized if I upset him and told him I was having a brutally honest moment.

We had a discussion a couple days later about it and he apologized for being a jerk. I apologized again and then he told me about how his ex had cheated on him (which is why they broke up) and he had found out over the holidays who his ex had cheated with (and when) so was kinda bummed which was causing him to keep his distance.

That was 2 weeks ago. I've still tried inviting him out, but he still doesn't seem to have time for me. I don't know if I'm just not taking the hint and should stop trying or if maybe I'm just being too pushy or expecting too much from the relationship...

On top of that, I want to talk to him about where we are in the relationship (just friends, boyfriends, somewhere in between...) but don't want to do it over text or facebook...

Thoughts?
"me no gay, me friends gay, me no like you call me gay, you dumb dumb" -bldavis
"Here are the values that I stand for: I stand for honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you wanna be treated, and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values. That’s what I stand for." -Ellen Degeneres
"I'm not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance." -Jon Stewart
Horde: Clopin Dylon Sharkbait Xiaman Metria Metapriest
Alliance: Schatze Aleks Deegee Baileyi Sotanaht Danfer Shazta Rawrsalot Roobyroo
User avatar
Skye1013
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 3573
Joined: Tue May 18, 2010 5:47 am
Location: JBPH-Hickam, Hawaii

Re: Relationships

Postby Skye1013 » Thu Jan 30, 2014 12:24 am

Additional info I forgot to put in the first post:

When I had sent the posted text message... one of his friends had just returned from a deployment (the first blacked out name) and they've also been in the process of finding a house to live in. I can understand that eats up some time, but even allowing for that, he's hung out with other people that weren't involved in either of those endeavors... so I'm feeling like I'm getting left behind.

Also, he's no longer in Honor Guard... just hangs out with the people that he knows from when he was in.
"me no gay, me friends gay, me no like you call me gay, you dumb dumb" -bldavis
"Here are the values that I stand for: I stand for honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you wanna be treated, and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values. That’s what I stand for." -Ellen Degeneres
"I'm not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance." -Jon Stewart
Horde: Clopin Dylon Sharkbait Xiaman Metria Metapriest
Alliance: Schatze Aleks Deegee Baileyi Sotanaht Danfer Shazta Rawrsalot Roobyroo
User avatar
Skye1013
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 3573
Joined: Tue May 18, 2010 5:47 am
Location: JBPH-Hickam, Hawaii

Re: Relationships

Postby Fivelives » Thu Jan 30, 2014 9:19 am

From the screencap you posted, it looks like you're in Clingy Jealous Girl mode. I really don't know how to go about fixing that, because from the other side of it the only option that appears to people involved (and I've had a few - more than a few, actually - of these types of people in my life) is to break up and sever contact. There's probably a better way to do things than that that I just don't know, but sometimes just having someone let you know what you're doing is the key to fixing the behavior.

This looks relevant (if you ignore the whole gender thing): http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/r ... thdrawing/ . I'm not sure how relevant it actually is to your situation specifically, but it's worth a read at least, I guess?
- I'm not Jesus, but I can turn water into Kool-Aid.
- A Sergeant in motion outranks an officer who doesn't know what the hell is going on.
- A demolitions specialist at a flat run outranks everybody.
User avatar
Fivelives
 
Posts: 2801
Joined: Sat Feb 16, 2008 7:55 pm

Re: Relationships

Postby Skye1013 » Thu Jan 30, 2014 10:51 am

I was wondering if that was the case and I'm not the best judge being in the middle of things, but we don't see each other all that often, so I'm not really sure how it would qualify as clingy. If we saw each other all the time and I was still berating him for never seeing him... I could easily see that assessment as being accurate.

Now, to be fair, we do have the same work schedule, so I see him at work, but we don't hang out at work and even when we chat, it's never anything intimate (as we haven't exactly announced that we're together and it's... work.) I don't know... I guess I'm just mostly upset because we haven't defined our relationship, so I don't know what expectations to have... and I don't want to have that discussion in an impersonal way.

Do I just bite the bullet and talk to him about it on facebook or should I hold out until we can have the face to face?

P.S. I'll check out the link later when I'm not at work.
"me no gay, me friends gay, me no like you call me gay, you dumb dumb" -bldavis
"Here are the values that I stand for: I stand for honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you wanna be treated, and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values. That’s what I stand for." -Ellen Degeneres
"I'm not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance." -Jon Stewart
Horde: Clopin Dylon Sharkbait Xiaman Metria Metapriest
Alliance: Schatze Aleks Deegee Baileyi Sotanaht Danfer Shazta Rawrsalot Roobyroo
User avatar
Skye1013
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 3573
Joined: Tue May 18, 2010 5:47 am
Location: JBPH-Hickam, Hawaii

Re: Relationships

Postby Nooska » Thu Jan 30, 2014 2:14 pm

A really radical thought (obvious to non-involved people);

"I guess I'm just mostly upset because we haven't defined our relationship, so I don't know what expectations to have"

Tell him (not that you are upset, but that you are uunsure or whatever - upset sounds as if you lay the responsibility/blame on him when you say it directly)

Worst case, he doesn't think you have a relationship and says so (but I doubt that is the case from what you have posted on the subject so faR)
Main Characters:
Nooska, Blood Elf BM/SV Hunter on Argent Dawn (EU)
Morosin, Bloody freezing orc death knight on Argent Dawn (EU)
Niisca, Shady forsaken "priest" on Argent Dawn (EU)

Keeper Emeritus of the BM hunters guide on Elitist Jerks and the wowhead version untill patch 5.3.
User avatar
Nooska
 
Posts: 1574
Joined: Sun Nov 27, 2011 10:55 am

Re: Relationships

Postby Fivelives » Thu Jan 30, 2014 6:01 pm

I've never been on your end of this situation, but having been on the receiving end of the "so what the hell are we, anyway" conversation I can tell you that it sucks to be blindsided with it.

Try to vet the things you say so that you don't come across as needy or passive aggressive - that's just going to send him running screaming for the hills. DEFINITELY have the conversation face to face. Realize that you have to live with the outcome of the SWTHAWA conversation - and that it can be something that you don't want - for example: you want a relationship, he just wants a fuckbuddy. End result: no relationship and most likely no more sex, the friendship is probably tanked too.

Plan out a statement - write it down if you have to - and stick to your script. Pretend you're giving a press conference. Make sure he knows that you have something to say and you want to say it before being interrupted, derailed, or driven off on tangents, then give him a chance to respond and the same courtesy that he just gave you (that is, letting him talk while you listen). Realize that unless you're both on exactly the same page, if you do end up in some sort of relationship, things are definitely going to be awkward for quite some time and be prepared for the absolute worst.

And yeah, we're all the worst judges of our own situations. Distance grants perspective, which is something that's nigh impossible to have when you're involved in the situation.
- I'm not Jesus, but I can turn water into Kool-Aid.
- A Sergeant in motion outranks an officer who doesn't know what the hell is going on.
- A demolitions specialist at a flat run outranks everybody.
User avatar
Fivelives
 
Posts: 2801
Joined: Sat Feb 16, 2008 7:55 pm

Re: Relationships

Postby Skye1013 » Thu Jan 30, 2014 10:03 pm

Just read the article and oddly enough it mimics what I was already considering (step 2.)

Not going to lie, it feels so strange going through this for the first time when I'm 29.
"me no gay, me friends gay, me no like you call me gay, you dumb dumb" -bldavis
"Here are the values that I stand for: I stand for honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you wanna be treated, and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values. That’s what I stand for." -Ellen Degeneres
"I'm not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance." -Jon Stewart
Horde: Clopin Dylon Sharkbait Xiaman Metria Metapriest
Alliance: Schatze Aleks Deegee Baileyi Sotanaht Danfer Shazta Rawrsalot Roobyroo
User avatar
Skye1013
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 3573
Joined: Tue May 18, 2010 5:47 am
Location: JBPH-Hickam, Hawaii

Re: Relationships

Postby Fivelives » Fri Jan 31, 2014 12:38 am

Glad it helped, and good luck with your situation. I hope everything works out for you.
- I'm not Jesus, but I can turn water into Kool-Aid.
- A Sergeant in motion outranks an officer who doesn't know what the hell is going on.
- A demolitions specialist at a flat run outranks everybody.
User avatar
Fivelives
 
Posts: 2801
Joined: Sat Feb 16, 2008 7:55 pm

Re: Relationships

Postby Sabindeus » Sun Feb 02, 2014 11:43 pm

Skye1013 wrote:Not going to lie, it feels so strange going through this for the first time when I'm 29.


No point in worrying about that dude
Image
Turn In, an NPC interaction automator - http://wow.curse.com/downloads/wow-addo ... rn-in.aspx
User avatar
Sabindeus
Moderator
 
Posts: 6050
Joined: Mon May 14, 2007 9:24 am

Re: Relationships

Postby Skye1013 » Mon Feb 03, 2014 9:59 am

Sabindeus wrote:
Skye1013 wrote:Not going to lie, it feels so strange going through this for the first time when I'm 29.


No point in worrying about that dude

Not so much worried... just strange. Figured it would have happened earlier... but then, I couldn't have necessarily accounted for liking guys instead of girls. :lol:
"me no gay, me friends gay, me no like you call me gay, you dumb dumb" -bldavis
"Here are the values that I stand for: I stand for honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you wanna be treated, and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values. That’s what I stand for." -Ellen Degeneres
"I'm not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance." -Jon Stewart
Horde: Clopin Dylon Sharkbait Xiaman Metria Metapriest
Alliance: Schatze Aleks Deegee Baileyi Sotanaht Danfer Shazta Rawrsalot Roobyroo
User avatar
Skye1013
Maintankadonor
 
Posts: 3573
Joined: Tue May 18, 2010 5:47 am
Location: JBPH-Hickam, Hawaii

Re: Relationships

Postby Io.Draco » Mon Feb 03, 2014 3:14 pm

Well trying to account for things in life is an experiment that's doomed to fail :P

Anyway relationship wise...well I find myself needing a bit of advice. I have a cross cousin with whom I grew up with ( basically she's a cousin of one of my cousins, no blood relation ), she's just a year older them me. Still went to same school, vacationed together etc.

Wasn't particular close to her during that time, since well age difference ( even if it's 1 year there is a difference ) and well different interests in that I was very much a video game nerd while she was a party girl. Anyway lost contact several years ago due to a case of family drama ( argument would be an understatement ).

Recently got in contact again with her family and thus by extension her, and well people change as they grow, and we've both changed quite a bit and now we get along quite well. We're both single after failed long distance relationships and have quite a bit in common and she's quite pretty, so I figure: Why the fuck not try pursuing it.

Of course I really don't want to fuck this up for obvious reasons. So how does one ago about this kind of thing?
User avatar
Io.Draco
 
Posts: 1139
Joined: Tue Sep 18, 2007 1:33 am

Re: Relationships

Postby Sabindeus » Tue Feb 04, 2014 10:57 pm

Skye1013 wrote:
Sabindeus wrote:
Skye1013 wrote:Not going to lie, it feels so strange going through this for the first time when I'm 29.


No point in worrying about that dude

Not so much worried... just strange. Figured it would have happened earlier... but then, I couldn't have necessarily accounted for liking guys instead of girls. :lol:

I like girls and it still hasn't happened for me! so you know, no big deal imo
Image
Turn In, an NPC interaction automator - http://wow.curse.com/downloads/wow-addo ... rn-in.aspx
User avatar
Sabindeus
Moderator
 
Posts: 6050
Joined: Mon May 14, 2007 9:24 am

PreviousNext

Return to Arkham Asylum

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest

Who is online

In total there is 1 user online :: 0 registered, 0 hidden and 1 guest (based on users active over the past 5 minutes)
Most users ever online was 380 on Tue Oct 14, 2008 6:28 pm

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest