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Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Mon Jan 21, 2013 3:13 pm

Fivelives wrote:You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and 4) an introvert

not sure if any apply to Sabin, but they work for me
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Re: Relationships

Postby Sabindeus » Mon Jan 21, 2013 3:14 pm

bldavis wrote:
Fivelives wrote:You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and 4) an introvert

not sure if any apply to Sabin, but they work for me


nailed at least 2 out of 4 bro. Not sure about the "introvert" thing but it's probably true.
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Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Mon Jan 21, 2013 3:31 pm

im not a full introvert, but enough of one that i can be really shy at times if i dont already know at least 1 or 2... preferably more though...people there

it takes me being around friends i have known for a while for me to be really outgoing
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Re: Relationships

Postby Sabindeus » Mon Jan 21, 2013 3:52 pm

bldavis wrote:im not a full introvert, but enough of one that i can be really shy at times if i dont already know at least 1 or 2... preferably more though...people there

it takes me being around friends i have known for a while for me to be really outgoing


yeah that describes me pretty well
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Re: Relationships

Postby lythac » Mon Jan 21, 2013 3:55 pm

Fivelives wrote:You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.


Or bar/coffeehouse/venue where an event is going on - poetry, comedy, musicians etc. Open mic might be a good thing or may be terrible. Gives you something to focus on and not feel self-conscious as well as providing something to talk about.
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Re: Relationships

Postby Amirya » Mon Jan 21, 2013 4:15 pm

bldavis wrote:
Fivelives wrote:You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and
4) an introvert

not sure if any apply to Sabin, but they work for me

1) Excuse, just because you're fat doesn't mean anything. Unless you're 800 lbs and your legs literally cannot support you. Then you have more important issues than a bed buddy.
2) Excuse. Have you seen the shit they call dancing these days? Getting mostly naked and shaking chest/hips around. Doesn't require a whole lotta skill.
3) I'll grant that one if you're in the between-bracket.
4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.

:D
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Re: Relationships

Postby Snake-Aes » Mon Jan 21, 2013 4:31 pm

Sagara wrote:Next thing I know you'll be dissin' Mage...
Awakening's rad, ascension was just a fad.
Sabindeus wrote:Here's a question that I may have asked before: Where do you go to meet (single) people if you don't drink?
Mostly I don't find people like that. They run by me or a friend shows me them and so on. I met my girlfriend when another friend of mine that studies with me asked my help to make her a song.
Amirya wrote:4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.
Most of them did start once I followed this advice as well. I'm still shy as fuck but if I'm interested I'll reach out of my comfort zone. The current one started when I looked at her the second time we ever met and said "Let's go somewhere else? This music is horrible."

And to add another shiny layer of facts no one believes me when I tell them: She called and told me she basically spent the day in RJ with Bon Jovi (she's a fan for like 30 years now).
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Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Mon Jan 21, 2013 5:34 pm

most women, at least around here, wont give you a second look unless you are a beanpole..stop laughing i am serious
either they are young idiots, or old and shudder worthy...im not that desperate for a bed buddy as ami put it

dancing...unless it is /dance i cant to it at all...well at least to what they play in most clubs. if i could find a club that played big band swing music, i would be scrawny as fuck due to LOVING to swing dance...i can also waltz (just way out of practice)

as for being out going...it is painful at times for me to try to open up to someone like that
i can...but its rare and takes me a while to get there
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Re: Relationships

Postby Aubade » Mon Jan 21, 2013 6:56 pm

Amirya wrote:4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.

:D



This might be counter-productive to your point. But most of my friends are extroverts who love being loud/Talking to people. Whenever they drag me along to bars/clubs/house parties, (Which is extremely rare, even more so now that I'm in a serious relationship) I normally sit in the corner, or focus on my own thing. Suprisingly I got more women interested in me than all my friends. And I'd get a lot of shit for "Stealing their romantic Interest" By doing nothing..... O.o

Tl;DR: Being an Introvert can work
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Re: Relationships

Postby Sabindeus » Mon Jan 21, 2013 8:21 pm

Aubade wrote:
Amirya wrote:4) Excuse. If you want to meet potential romantic interests, being shy and hiding your head in a bucket a la ostrich is dumb. No one cares about the buckethead in the corner. You'd have to show them why they should be interested in you, which means shedding buckethead persona.

:D



This might be counter-productive to your point. But most of my friends are extroverts who love being loud/Talking to people. Whenever they drag me along to bars/clubs/house parties, (Which is extremely rare, even more so now that I'm in a serious relationship) I normally sit in the corner, or focus on my own thing. Suprisingly I got more women interested in me than all my friends. And I'd get a lot of shit for "Stealing their romantic Interest" By doing nothing..... O.o

Tl;DR: Being an Introvert can work


Sadly while I have friends like that, they're all a) not around me anymore due to geographic diffusion, b) in relationships anyway so less likely for anything like that to happen even if they were around
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Re: Relationships

Postby Sagara » Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:06 am

Snake-Aes wrote:
Sagara wrote:Next thing I know you'll be dissin' Mage...
Awakening's rad, ascension was just a fad.


I could kiss you!
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Re: Relationships

Postby Snake-Aes » Tue Jan 22, 2013 4:55 am

Sagara wrote:
Snake-Aes wrote:
Sagara wrote:Next thing I know you'll be dissin' Mage...
Awakening's rad, ascension was just a fad.
I could kiss you!
I know >:)
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Re: Relationships

Postby Amirya » Tue Jan 22, 2013 11:17 am

Aubade wrote:This might be counter-productive to your point. But most of my friends are extroverts who love being loud/Talking to people. Whenever they drag me along to bars/clubs/house parties, (Which is extremely rare, even more so now that I'm in a serious relationship) I normally sit in the corner, or focus on my own thing. Suprisingly I got more women interested in me than all my friends. And I'd get a lot of shit for "Stealing their romantic Interest" By doing nothing..... O.o

Tl;DR: Being an Introvert can work

Pfft, it has nothing to do with being an introvert (I'm quite the introvert offline, and I apparently give off "hostile keep the fuck away from me" vibes when I stare off into space). It's just that you're so cute and adorable. :mrgreen:
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Re: Relationships

Postby Snake-Aes » Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:42 pm

Amirya wrote:Pfft, it has nothing to do with being an introvert (I'm quite the introvert offline, and I apparently give off "hostile keep the fuck away from me" vibes when I stare off into space). It's just that you're so cute and adorable. :mrgreen:
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Re: Relationships

Postby Fivelives » Tue Jan 22, 2013 3:36 pm

bldavis wrote:
Fivelives wrote:You can still go to bars if you don't drink. Dance clubs in particular.

that doesnt help when you are
1) fat
2) cant dance
3) live in a small city with no dance clubs, and most bars are filled with the older crowd or dumbass country kids that cant get beer at home/are 21 so they dont have to get it at home anymore
and
4) an introvert

All but (3) can be counteracted by a healthy dose of confidence. Even hick towns have dance clubs though - but instead of playing bump & grind music, they'll play two-step or line dances. Learn a simple line dance and get out there for a round or two.

If you can swing dance, you can swing dance to anything with the proper rhythm. Much like the waltz just requires something in 3/3 time. And I'd wager dollars to donuts that if you can swing dance, you can pick up just about anyone who's out dancing.
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Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Tue Jan 22, 2013 4:24 pm

if we do have any where that the music isnt just karaoke...i have yet to hear about them

and being shy and introverted, i tend to only dance either with someone i know or someone who asks me...yes i know i am pathetic to those of you who are more extroverted and outgoing
lowish self esteem and confidence dont help
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Re: Relationships

Postby Amirya » Tue Jan 22, 2013 4:31 pm

Don't worry, someone will beat you upside the head.

OOOOOHHHH...evil idea......brb
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Re: Relationships

Postby Fivelives » Tue Jan 22, 2013 4:54 pm

So karaoke. People are generally too drunk to really notice how bad your singing is, or they've grown somewhat immune to frog croaking noises, but getting up on stage to perform on karaoke night serves the same purpose as getting out on the dance floor at a dance club.
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Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Tue Jan 22, 2013 4:59 pm

so..iow something i wouldnt be caught dead doing unless i was way beyond legal to drive...
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Re: Relationships

Postby Amirya » Tue Jan 22, 2013 5:33 pm

bldavis wrote:so..iow something i wouldnt be caught dead doing unless i was way beyond legal to drive...

Well, that's up to you, but I believe the saying is something like, "Pride makes a cold bedfellow."

Me, I'm happy to terrorize my guild officers, so I'll keep my dignity.
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Re: Relationships

Postby Barathorn » Wed Jan 23, 2013 6:50 am

Sab/BLD,

Most of my friends met people online or at places like the Supermarket, about 2 out of 20 of us met our other halves at bars.

My advice, join a dating site, it worked for a lot of my friends and its way easier to chat to people online before you meet them as you can establish if your interests are the same, if there is comfortable common ground and if they are local to you.

Other than that just,

a/ be truthful
b/ be yourself
c/ be considerate of what you want and what your date wants
d/ don't be a cock

I was in exactly the same boat as you Sab/BLD and it all worked out funky badger. There is no reason it cannot for you.

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Re: Relationships

Postby Amirya » Wed Jan 23, 2013 11:08 am

:)

You also forgot to tell them the Secret of Fire (or was it the Secret of Caveman?).
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Re: Relationships

Postby Fivelives » Wed Jan 23, 2013 9:34 pm

In order for me to karaoke, one of the following statements has to be true:

Either I am too hammered to give a shit that I'm singing poorly,

-or-

Everyone else in the room is too hammered to give a shit that I'm singing poorly.
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Re: Relationships

Postby Barathorn » Thu Jan 24, 2013 12:53 am

Amirya wrote::)

You also forgot to tell them the Secret of Fire (or was it the Secret of Caveman?).


Well the secret of fire does have a 100% success rate I guess.

I feel that the world has changed though and that technique might not be as successful thesedays as when I employed it to good effect.

Thesedays I would probably go with 'For most things in life there is Mastercard, for everything else there is rohypnol'.

Snake is better at current day things than me, dating used to be easy, as you get older it gets harder as everyone has more baggage to deal with I guess.

Sab/BLD get yourself on dating sites, at least you are putting yourselves out there then?

I forgot another golden rule, never ever ever ever be needy. That shit is the door to rejection and heartbreak.
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Re: Relationships

Postby bldavis » Thu Jan 24, 2013 2:13 am

im on a few...but lack the funding to pay for the contacting of matches...
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