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Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 06, 2012 11:14 pm
by Levantine
So apparently I have a copy of DOTA2 that I didn't realise I had. Neat.

KiaiPK is my steam btw.

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 10:07 pm
by Aubade
So, My week so far. Election day, went and applied for an apartment, with my girlfriend! (Both of our first apartments.) Friday: Got approved! Saturday: Dropped my entire paycheck on rent/deposit.. Started moving!

Sunday: Moving
Monday: Moving + work
Tuesday: Work + Semi-unpacking
Today: Set-up internet/Cable TV. Finally feels like a real apartment!

So excited to have my own place finally, it feels so goooooood =]

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Wed Nov 21, 2012 8:30 pm
by bldavis
how the fuck did we go a week without a post in the relationships thread?!?!?!!?

anyway, bad/good news
our 10 yr old cocker ...oops 11 yr old (his bday was yesterday) had to be put down earlier today
he had a tumor in his jaw that was spreading to his throat and had closed it off.
yesterday he was really sluggish, but today he was active, but couldnt eat or drink anything
there was nothing that could be done.

we had him since he was 9 months old, when he was a birthday present to my mom from her brother and rescued from death row in a shelter.
now we are down to 5 yr old Bo and 3 yr old Willy

RIP Freckles, you will be missed
*wipes tears from eyes*
dam allergies :(

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Thu Nov 22, 2012 11:30 am
by Era
Sorry to hear about your dog; it's quite incredible how strong bonds we can form with animal companions. I've never really had any myself. Parents had a cat when I was little, but it just up and decided one day that we weren't worth its attention and pissed off into the forest never to be seen again. As cats often do. I have a theory that he lives there to this day, ruling the beasts of the wild with an iron paw. Saw him chase off a fox once. Massive cat, never did anything but eat and hunt. >_>

Have a sad song (lyrics in description, they're important for context)
http://youtu.be/EIulZ0Vw2z8

Edit: WHAT DO YOU MEAN URLS AREN'T IMAGES?

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Fri Nov 23, 2012 10:07 am
by Sagara
To lighten up the mood - it's going to be a boy!

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Fri Nov 23, 2012 10:14 am
by Nooska
Sagara wrote:To lighten up the mood - it's going to be a boy!

Said it last night, but it bears repeating:

Weeeeee :D

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Fri Nov 23, 2012 10:35 am
by Sagara
No. yay.

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 9:43 am
by Passionario
Sagara wrote:To lighten up the mood - it's going to be a boy!

Cheers. :)

(Ours still prefers to conceal his/her gender, even though it's 23rd week already)

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 10:43 am
by Sagara
Heh - they tend to be secretive like that. We're trying to find a nice name now, but it's a bit though making everyone more or less happy.

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 12:52 pm
by Nooska
Your job is to make the boy happy and the mother happy, everyone else just has to learn it isn't their child ;-)

(yeah, I know it doesn't work that way)

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 3:56 pm
by Lightbeard
Something interesting I found off Reddit

A guy asked if it's true that people claim cops have quotas for issuing tickets

My ex-gf is a cop, and here's how she explained it.

When you're getting a performance review, tickets get thrown into a big pot called "self-initiated activity." The more stuff you have in that, the better your performance review. Not just tickets/warnings, but contacting people who wave you down, investigating suspicious situations, stopping for disabled motorists, stuff like that. It shows that you are active on your job, and not just answering dispatch calls. They also want variety in that activity, so if you have 60 tickets written in two weeks, but nothing else, they're going to be asking what you are doing with your time besides sitting on a roadside (unless you've been assigned to a traffic detail).

Other things that impact your performance reviews are the percentage of your cases that get cleared, how fast they get cleared, number of civilian complaints against you, percentage of cases in which you appeared for court (mostly has to do with tickets, and shows that you are following through on your case load), amount of training you take, shifts/duties you volunteer for, and any statements made for/against you by fellow officers and supervisors.

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 10:22 am
by firstamendme
So let's say you are dating a coworker who went home sick early yesterday. She has a penchant for letting her phone die and her charger is here in the lab. You usually talk via text constantly, but haven't heard anything from her since last night and it's already after noon. Additionally, her roommate is psychotic and verbally abusive to her, and hates you. If you don't hear from her by late afternoon, is it considered stalkerish to show up at her apartment unannounced with chicken soup and flowers?

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 11:06 am
by Amirya
1) Define "psychotic"
2) Make sure she likes chicken soup
3) I'll let the others give the actual advice, since I'm apparently a bad option for not following the norms :)

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 11:09 am
by firstamendme
More abusive than psychotic. She is constantly verbally abusive to her and hates it when she gives attention to anyone else. Such outbursts as when she didn't get her way and my girlfriend left the apartment to come see me resulted in kicking a large crack into a bathroom door and threatening to mess up her room.

Edit: She does like chicken soup. :P

I get worried when I don't hear from her for a day anyway, as it often means her roommate is in the middle of screaming at her.

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 11:10 am
by bldavis
im pretty sure that falls under psychotic as well....

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 12:11 pm
by Nikachelle
firstamendme wrote:So let's say you are dating a coworker who went home sick early yesterday. She has a penchant for letting her phone die and her charger is here in the lab. You usually talk via text constantly, but haven't heard anything from her since last night and it's already after noon. Additionally, her roommate is psychotic and verbally abusive to her, and hates you. If you don't hear from her by late afternoon, is it considered stalkerish to show up at her apartment unannounced with chicken soup and flowers?

I'm curious why you would even consider that stalkerish. It sounds incredibly nice and thoughtful to me.

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 12:12 pm
by Sabindeus
oh god nika your avatar is giving me seizures

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 12:57 pm
by Shoju
firstamendme wrote:More abusive than psychotic. She is constantly verbally abusive to her and hates it when she gives attention to anyone else. Such outbursts as when she didn't get her way and my girlfriend left the apartment to come see me resulted in kicking a large crack into a bathroom door and threatening to mess up her room.

Edit: She does like chicken soup. :P

I get worried when I don't hear from her for a day anyway, as it often means her roommate is in the middle of screaming at her.



This could be in poor form, and if it is, I apologize, but it sounds like the roommate thinks (or wants) there to be something more to the "roommates". I once had a situation like that, which is probably what made me think of it. Time for your coworker to find a new roommate me thinks.

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 1:11 pm
by Nikachelle
Sabindeus wrote:oh god nika your avatar is giving me seizures

Rainbow kitten owns your soul. :)

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 2:57 pm
by firstamendme
The flowers and soup went over well.

My wondering about if it was stalkerish stems from having just got out of a marriage, so I was used to being with a person every day. I didn't want to move too fast and do something too quickly. Additionally, due to why the marriage ended, there is always that little voice in my head that says if I'm not hearing from her it's because she's with another guy. Stupid, I know, and I can logically refute the 'little voice,' but it means that impartial anonymous opinions help me separate what I think might be crazy from what is actually normal behavior.

I think you are right, Shoju, and I've been trying to get her to find a new roommate, but as with many recipients of verbal/emotional abuse it's hard to break through the wall of 'It isn't that bad' that gets put up.

Thanks for the opinions! I went with soup, her favorite flavor tums, and her favorite flavor power aid. (and a flower, naturally).

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 9:36 am
by Shoju
firstamendme wrote:The flowers and soup went over well.

Yay!

My wondering about if it was stalkerish stems from having just got out of a marriage, so I was used to being with a person every day. I didn't want to move too fast and do something too quickly. Additionally, due to why the marriage ended, there is always that little voice in my head that says if I'm not hearing from her it's because she's with another guy. Stupid, I know, and I can logically refute the 'little voice,' but it means that impartial anonymous opinions help me separate what I think might be crazy from what is actually normal behavior.


This is completely understandable. I have gone down that path before. It was awful. It was terrible. The broken trust bleeds into parts of your life that you never thought would be effected. Being able to logically refute the 'little voice' is a good step in the process of moving beyond what has happened.

I think you are right, Shoju, and I've been trying to get her to find a new roommate, but as with many recipients of verbal/emotional abuse it's hard to break through the wall of 'It isn't that bad' that gets put up.

Thanks for the opinions! I went with soup, her favorite flavor tums, and her favorite flavor power aid. (and a flower, naturally).

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That is the hardest part. Especially when it is a "friend" and not "Family" that is being abusive. People don't seem to think of relationships with friends being able to exhibit that level of "behavior".

The other solution? Move her in with you :) (kidding, unless you are at "that" point, though it doesn't sound like it)

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 9:47 am
by Nikachelle
GAHHHHHHHHHHH! Awesome internal job posting that someone's just pointed out to me (it's right up my alley, hence them suggesting it to me). It's a step up in the corporation and a payraise... but we noticed the posting late so I've only got until this Friday to submit my full application. [panic mode activated]

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 10:22 am
by Sagara
Drop the gear table, Nika! CHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGE to your destiny!

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 10:53 am
by firstamendme
Shoju wrote:The other solution? Move her in with you :) (kidding, unless you are at "that" point, though it doesn't sound like it)


Well we have only been dating almost two months. Also, we both just renewed leases in October, so it would be tricky. Hopefully it will be an option next October. :D

Re: Relationships

PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 11:42 am
by Nikachelle
firstamendme wrote:
Shoju wrote:The other solution? Move her in with you :) (kidding, unless you are at "that" point, though it doesn't sound like it)


Well we have only been dating almost two months. Also, we both just renewed leases in October, so it would be tricky. Hopefully it will be an option next October. :D

Oh puhhhhleeeeeeze! Invis and I moved in within two months of meeting IRL and then got married two months later.

(I say this teasingly as I know you've just gotten divorced, so don't take me too seriously! ;))

Anyway, good job on the soup deal. Kindness is always appreciated - glad she liked it. :)