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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Sagara » Mon Jul 23, 2012 8:10 am

bldavis wrote:
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Sagara wrote:A more interesting concept would be: you might marry you best friend, or just about anyone of consenting age, without feelings or whatever.

Near as I can tell, there's currently nothing written in any law that says when you obtain an opposite gender spouse, you must also love them as a spouse.

accordingly to law marriage has nothing to do with love
all it does is provide certain rights and privileges to the two people who signed the marriage contract


And that's what so interesting! Any concept of feelings or caring is left right out of the entire marriage thingie.
In a pure logical context, there's no reason to stop marriage between any two consenting adults.
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby bldavis » Mon Jul 23, 2012 9:14 am

exactly
im not trying to step on toes or pick a fight, but love thy neighbor doesnt extend to allowing said neighbor the same rights and privliges you enjoy through a marriage contract?

one thing that i thought of last night is
oregon is a common law state, live together for 7 years and you are considered married
does that go for LGBT couples as well?
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Passionario » Mon Jul 23, 2012 9:26 am

Treck wrote:I feel like im late to the party, but LGBT rights? that doesnt sound right.
Shouldnt it be "human rights".

It's complicated.

The Universal Declaration of Human Rights establishes rights that are available to "All human beings" or "Everyone" - except for Article 16, which talks about the right to marry and to found a family. Said right is available to "Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion".

As you can imagine, proponents of gay marriage interpret this as "People can marry anyone, as long as everyone involved is of full age", while their opponents read it is "People can marry anyone, as long as one party is an adult man and the other is an adult woman".
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Klaudandus » Mon Jul 23, 2012 9:55 am

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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Sagara » Mon Jul 23, 2012 10:29 am



Classy move. I'll be the cynic saying it's probably not that important to Henson to lose Chik-fil-a, but at the very least, it's a statement.
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Shoju » Mon Jul 23, 2012 11:08 am

This will be my last post in this thread, since it appears that my presence only seems to derail the conversation.


I would respectfully disagree that this isn't about me Lieris. Just because I happen to be heterosexual makes this issue no less of an issue for me. It is also about poptart, and skye, and gab, and lev, and nika, and invis. It's about all of us. It is pretty easy to say that it isn't about us (meaning: Heterosexuals), because we are heterosexual, and this... 'particular' portion of human rights may not involve my lifestyle, but that doesn't mean that the next topic wont. It is about all of us, because like Treck said, it's about Human Rights. (props to you, the non native english speaker for making what I felt was a fantastic comment)

My personal feelings about the LGBT community don't matter, and I've tried to keep them out of the discussion. I have no problem with anyone who is gay. Some of my best friends in life have been gay. I didn't care. Being gay doesn't define them as a human being anymore than being hetero defines me as a human being, or that I'm half Mexican, or that Treck is European, and so on and so forth.

[anectdote you can skip if you want]
Hell, I had a roommate for a year shortly after I moved out of my parents house, and for 4 months, I had NO CLUE he was gay. It wasn't until I came home from work one day, and his boyfriend was over. It was humorous. The table had been hastily cleaned off, but obviously set for two. The couch had a blanket on it, and a couple of pillows. More than I had ever seen him sit / relax with. I thought "SWEET! He someone over! So I cleaned up a bit, and had to go to the bathroom. As I went down the hall, I saw some clothes. "Oh! Well, she looked a little "big" but, hey! Whatever!" I went in the bathroom to take a leak, and there were two pairs of Men's boxers on the floor. "oh.... It's a dude."

I was shocked, but not in a bad way. Suddenly, his behavior, and his secrecy, and his nondescript talks of plans made sense. He was nervous that I wouldn't approve. He knew my upbringing. So I tried to make the bathroom less... messy, and went back out, plopped on the couch, and watched the end of some baseball game.

When he emerged from his room later, he was embarrassed, and began to apologize. I told him to stop, I walked over, and gave him a hug, and I told him "If they make you happy, that's all I care about. Not whether the razor is for the legs, or the face."

And that was when I FULLY realized, that he was still my friend, he was still the same guy, he just didn't like women in the same way I did. Our friendship was better for me knowing. He died almost 3 years ago from Cancer, with the same man at his side. 11 years they spent together, the last few of them through some of the most terrible pain I have seen a human endure. I didn't care that they were gay. I cared that they loved each other, and that we could rationally, civilly, without getting angry have good talks about faith, and religion, and their desire to get married.
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I don't write the anecdote to garner sympathy for my position of trying to defend poptart's words. I write it, to get you to understand MY POSITION. I don't care who you love. I don't care who you sleep with. Honeslty, I care more about the staggering divorce rate than I do about whether or not you are gay.

This is a very important topic for me. One that I feel everyone should care deeply about. It is a civil rights debate that is going on in more than just the USA, or a few other places. Like Treck said. This isn't about JUST LGBT rights. This is about Human rights. It is about the separation of rights from religion, and realizing that no matter what your religion, or faith, or lack of faith tells you, it is important that we are protecting everyone's rights.

That means both sides. I have defended poptart, because so few have. I defend him, because I understand where he is coming from. I understand that position very well. And I disagree with those people who feel his words were anything but civil. But in the interest of this being a rational talk, I'm bowing out. Too many people want to see me as Shoju "the problem" in this discussion. This isn't a discussion of WoW, or some other equally unimportant bullshit video game, or how I feel that Blizzard is bordering on jumping the shark with WoW. This is about You, me, and everyone else, trying to make a better world.

So in closing

I support gays rights to marry, or be joined in a civil union, or whatever you want to call it, so that their relationship is just as legally legitimate as a hetero marriage.

I support people of faith standing up for their religious beliefs, even when they know that it isn't a popular stance to take. I would be saddened if they didn't. It's a tough line to walk at times for those who claim to be a person of faith. If you speak out, you risk being condemned. If you don't speak out, you are condemned for not having the courage of your convictions.

I support both of these sides just as much as I support an artist's right to create a 'shocking' or 'thought provoking' painting, song, sculpture, or film. Even if I find it appalling, or revolting, or narrow minded, or whatever.

I feel this way, because I feel that everyone's rights should be protected, and I hope, that if the day ever came when my rights were being infringed upon, they would stand up and say "No. That's not right."
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Koatanga » Mon Jul 23, 2012 4:44 pm

I am also a hetero male. I am married and have a seven-year-old daughter.

I strongly support the right of same-sex couples to formalise their relationship in a way that is recognised by the law.

I strongly support people who have religious beliefs to be free to practice their religion.

I strongly feel that people should not impose their religion, or the teachings thereof, on people who do not believe in that religion, nor should they judge the behaviour of a person based on religious beliefs not held by that person.

Therefore, there is no debate on this issue for me. There is only one way that has any moral credibility, which is to support the rights of same-sex couples to have their relationship legally recognised.

Now here's the odd bit - I support the religious people's right to follow their own religion, so I support them blocking same-sex marriages from taking place in their churches, should they wish to block them. Hence, I think the "civil union" would be the way to go - provided civil union has the same legal rights and privileges of a marriage.
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Levantine » Mon Jul 23, 2012 4:53 pm

FWIW, I'm of the belief that the term 'marriage' should be stripped from the legal system entirely. Gays and straights should be involved in civil unions, and if you want to call it marriage then go get hitched in a church/mosque/synagogue after the fact to get it recognised by 'god', but it would have absolutely no additional legal standing. Easy as pie.
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Klaudandus » Mon Jul 23, 2012 5:27 pm

Koatanga wrote:I am also a hetero male. I am married and have a seven-year-old daughter.

I strongly support the right of same-sex couples to formalise their relationship in a way that is recognised by the law.

I strongly support people who have religious beliefs to be free to practice their religion.

I strongly feel that people should not impose their religion, or the teachings thereof, on people who do not believe in that religion, nor should they judge the behaviour of a person based on religious beliefs not held by that person.

Therefore, there is no debate on this issue for me. There is only one way that has any moral credibility, which is to support the rights of same-sex couples to have their relationship legally recognised.

Now here's the odd bit - I support the religious people's right to follow their own religion, so I support them blocking same-sex marriages from taking place in their churches, should they wish to block them. Hence, I think the "civil union" would be the way to go - provided civil union has the same legal rights and privileges of a marriage.


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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Treck » Mon Jul 23, 2012 5:58 pm

Levantine wrote:FWIW, I'm of the belief that the term 'marriage' should be stripped from the legal system entirely. Gays and straights should be involved in civil unions, and if you want to call it marriage then go get hitched in a church/mosque/synagogue after the fact to get it recognised by 'god', but it would have absolutely no additional legal standing. Easy as pie.

I cant say anything other than that i completely agree.
Marriage is an outdated concept, just like everything else that is religion.
Thats why I sorta understand why people say gay's destroy marriage, cause they destroy what they think marriage stands for for them.
If people wanna be recognized as a couple by the state, the state approves them as a couple.
If anyone then wanna sprinkle some magic fairy dust on their union to be recognized by a magical man in the sky, you can still call yours "sacred" and keep the unworthy out of the loop.
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Amirya » Mon Jul 23, 2012 6:18 pm

I've always wondered...

If civil unions between two consenting adults (regardless of gender) are approved, what are the overly religious going to do when those civil unions start being called 'marriages' because they are recognised by faiths that do support same-sex civil unions?
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Klaudandus » Mon Jul 23, 2012 6:20 pm

Amirya wrote:I've always wondered...

If civil unions between two consenting adults (regardless of gender) are approved, what are the overly religious going to do when those civil unions start being called 'marriages' because they are recognised by faiths that do support same-sex civil unions?


throw a fit, stomp their feet and say that the government is overrun by socialist atheists/muslims that are anti-american.
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Lieris » Mon Jul 23, 2012 7:02 pm

Levantine wrote:FWIW, I'm of the belief that the term 'marriage' should be stripped from the legal system entirely. Gays and straights should be involved in civil unions, and if you want to call it marriage then go get hitched in a church/mosque/synagogue after the fact to get it recognised by 'god', but it would have absolutely no additional legal standing. Easy as pie.


The abrahamic faiths didn't invent marriage. It doesn't belong to them.

A lot of non-religious and same sex couples don't want a civil union, they want a marriage.

Civil partnerships for same sex couples are legal in the UK but marriage is important enough that even our conservative government is pushing it through. Put simply there should be one law for all, not one law for the gays, one for the straights, one for the atheists, religious exemption on law X, sharia courts for the muslims, rabbinical ones for the jews etc.

Marriage is also much better as regards recognition abroad. Most EU states do not recognise civil partnerships even if its opposite sex.

All couples should be able to have a marriage, regardless of sexual orientation or faith (or lack thereof).
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Re: LGBT rights discussion

Postby Treck » Mon Jul 23, 2012 7:06 pm

Lieris wrote:A lot of non-religious and same sex couples don't want a civil union, they want a marriage.

For a non religious couple, whats really the differance?
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